Why don't women speak english?

[cecilia]

Maybe you were too nice, women like you to be a bit "masterful", make decisions for them occasionally. They like it!. Cecilia help me out here, you'll be able to explain it better. I don't mean order them about or anything, but don't be a doormat. It's difficult being a modern man and a {bleep} at the same time, but it keeps you on your toes!  Text her, "8pm, 'NAME OF LOCAL BAR', Friday night, don't be late" then just show up. God loves a tryer remember.

ok, i'll do my best: while it's ok for a guy to ask my opinion of where i might want to go and do, or go and eat, if i get asked ALL the time, there's no opportunity for surprise. no chance to see what the guy likes to do and therefore no way to really do any communicating.

plus, it feels like the guy is only a slave to my wishes. and while that  may sound ok to some people, trust me, it can be a bore. it also means i have to make ALL the decisions. and that's tiresome.

the one thing that will kill any relationship - old or new - is predictablity and boredom. if you knew exactly what the guy will say and do, there's no surprise, no tension, no excitment.

what girls want is some excitment. some unpredictability. no, not a massmurderer or a criminal, but someone with the balls to be himself without being a freaking bully. having an opinion and not being afraid to state it is sexy. if you like a girl, just say so! ghod damn it! don't be such a puss!
even if it shocks her. maybe, when she has time to think about it, she'll like it!
don't be afraid to shake people up. it's attractive to be a bit "wild".
trust me.  :-P

[aardvark]

what girls want is some excitement. some unpredictability. no, not a massmurderer or a criminal

Damn, maybe that's why I can't get any dates!
 :lol:

[iamaboringperson]

:-)

[Cyberus]

@ iamaboringperson

So keep her in suspense, it may be a candlelit dinner, an evening at her favourite opera or play, maybe something more adventurous - an afternoon of go-karting, perhaps even a bungee jump...but to really get her eating out of the palm of your hand......yes, that's right, a game of snakes and ladders :lol:

[PMC]

cecilia wrote:

ok, i'll do my best: while it's ok for a guy to ask my opinion of where i might want to go and do, or go and eat, if i get asked ALL the time, there's no opportunity for surprise. no chance to see what the guy likes to do and therefore no way to really do any communicating.

So I am in order arranging a fun date downhill mountain biking, competing in a triathlon or perhaps spending all day drinking beer?

;-)

plus, it feels like the guy is only a slave to my wishes. and while that  may sound ok to some people, trust me, it can be a bore. it also means i have to make ALL the decisions. and that's tiresome.

HALLELUJAH!  That means I can use some "creativity" in selecting the venue of a prospective date, safe in the knowledge that she'll enjoy being surprised.  Boy will she be surprised when I turn up with a a load of spare biking gear....  Or maybe suggesting a beer festival?

what girls want is some excitment. some unpredictability. no, not a massmurderer or a criminal, but someone with the balls to be himself without being a freaking bully. having an opinion and not being afraid to state it is sexy. if you like a girl, just say so! ghod damn it! don't be such a puss!
even if it shocks her. maybe, when she has time to think about it, she'll like it!
don't be afraid to shake people up. it's attractive to be a bit "wild".
trust me.  :-P

So downhill mountain biking is a guaranteed lady-puller then? LOL!

Sorry Cecilia for having a little fun at your expense here, but it's Thursday, I'm at work an in a mischeivous mood...

On this subject, I think it's always best to be or appear to be happy and comfortable with yourself.  You wouldn't want to talk to an attractive, but miserable looking lass and the same is true when it comes to us blokes.  Regardless of how well you scrub up, you'll never turn a lady's head unless you appear to be at ease with yourself...

[cecilia]

PMC wrote:
So I am in order arranging a fun date downhill mountain biking, competing in a triathlon or perhaps spending all day drinking beer?

;-)

well, i would! :lol: :lol:

HALLELUJAH!  That means I can use some "creativity" in selecting the venue of a prospective date, safe in the knowledge that she'll enjoy being surprised.  Boy will she be surprised when I turn up with a a load of spare biking gear....  Or maybe suggesting a beer festival?

well, one can TRY. sometimes a guy took me somewhere that made me uncomfortable at first - i just wasn't ready for it. but eventually, i "got it". learning new things is part of living.
so, even if a girl goes, "eeeewww", it's not the end of the world. you may have done her a favor. even if you don't see that right away.
the trick is to have enough self confidence to not be intimidated by someone elses mind set. if she doesn't feel the same about something as you, it's HER issue. not yours. don't bend yourself into a pretsel over another person.

On this subject, I think it's always best to be or appear to be happy and comfortable with yourself.  You wouldn't want to talk to an attractive, but miserable looking lass and the same is true when it comes to us blokes.  Regardless of how well you scrub up, you'll never turn a lady's head unless you appear to be at ease with yourself...

absolulty, being happy with yourself shows confidence.

[smithy]

@cecilia & mdma

Yeah I know what you mean about being too "nice".  I suspect this might have been part of the problem, not seeming assertive or confident enough.  It's quite difficult, and I suppose there's a fine line between showing too much opinion and too little.  Well I'll remember that for the next date I have (however far away that may be!) and try to be a bit more normal!  It's too late to go out again with her, but hopefully it won't be too long before someone else comes along...

[Cyberus]

smithy wrote:
@cecilia & mdma

Yeah I know what you mean about being too "nice".

Ah, the old, "Your too nice to go out with" scenario. All the girls see you as a really nice guy, but they just want to be friends? I think this touches on what Cecilia was saying... A nice, caring sensitive man isn't always sexy and exciting.

[bloodline]

smithy wrote:
@cecilia & mdma

Yeah I know what you mean about being too "nice".  I suspect this might have been part of the problem, not seeming assertive or confident enough.  It's quite difficult, and I suppose there's a fine line between showing too much opinion and too little.  Well I'll remember that for the next date I have (however far away that may be!) and try to be a bit more normal!  It's too late to go out again with her, but hopefully it won't be too long before someone else comes along...

Quitter :-(

cecilia wrote:

Maybe you were too nice, women like you to be a bit "masterful", make decisions for them occasionally. They like it!. Cecilia help me out here, you'll be able to explain it better. I don't mean order them about or anything, but don't be a doormat. It's difficult being a modern man and a {bleep} at the same time, but it keeps you on your toes!  Text her, "8pm, 'NAME OF LOCAL BAR', Friday night, don't be late" then just show up. God loves a tryer remember.

ok, i'll do my best: while it's ok for a guy to ask my opinion of where i might want to go and do, or go and eat, if i get asked ALL the time, there's no opportunity for surprise. no chance to see what the guy likes to do and therefore no way to really do any communicating.

plus, it feels like the guy is only a slave to my wishes. and while that  may sound ok to some people, trust me, it can be a bore. it also means i have to make ALL the decisions. and that's tiresome.

the one thing that will kill any relationship - old or new - is predictablity and boredom. if you knew exactly what the guy will say and do, there's no surprise, no tension, no excitment.

what girls want is some excitment. some unpredictability. no, not a massmurderer or a criminal, but someone with the balls to be himself without being a freaking bully. having an opinion and not being afraid to state it is sexy. if you like a girl, just say so! ghod damn it! don't be such a puss!
even if it shocks her. maybe, when she has time to think about it, she'll like it!
don't be afraid to shake people up. it's attractive to be a bit "wild".
trust me.  :-P

That's a damn attractive quality you have there! ;-)

[Cyberus]

bloodline wrote:

smithy wrote:
@cecilia & mdma

Yeah I know what you mean about being too "nice".  I suspect this might have been part of the problem, not seeming assertive or confident enough.  It's quite difficult, and I suppose there's a fine line between showing too much opinion and too little.  Well I'll remember that for the next date I have (however far away that may be!) and try to be a bit more normal!  It's too late to go out again with her, but hopefully it won't be too long before someone else comes along...

Quitter :-(

Good point. Persistence does work!
I remember a certain young lady stopped talking to me, in fact for months. She was the first, and I think only girl who I ever loved. I wanted to be with her so much, to hear her voice again, to look into her beautiful eyes, to..[you get  the idea]. She started to ignore emails, letters etc, but I never gave up.
Finally I got to her..I sent her a poem on Valentine's day last year that took me hours and hours to write. She couldn't help but reply, she was obviously moved by it (or more likely the obvious amount of effort on my part) and when she did....I can't describe the feeling...All I could do, all I wanted to do was run - I went out running, with a huge grin on my face, for about half an hour. I went down the pub that evening...two different people commented, "Did you get your end away last night? I haven't seen you smile like that for ages"
"Something like that", I replied... :lol:

Oh {bleep}, I'm starting to feel longing now...
I feel all soppy, [big hug!]
Feel the love people!!!
:love:

[Methuselas]

[snicker] I have found that refusing to commit has its benefits, Smithy. I seem to attract MORE women when *I* say 'I just want to be friends'.

Don't get me wrong, I'd like a commitment, but I want one like I had with my ex-wife, just with us BOTH compromising, instead of just ME compromising. I said it when I was 6, so I'm told and I still stand by it:

"Girls are strange people!" :lol:


[EDIT] - And never, EVER, forget the Tequila.  :-P

[Speelgoedmannetje]

Cyberus wrote:
Feel the love people!!!
:love:

aye! :pint:
I mean:
 :love:

[Speelgoedmannetje]

Methuselas wrote:
I seem to attract MORE women when *I* say 'I just want to be friends'.

I know exactly what you're talking about. :lol:
:-(

[T_Bone]

Speelgoedmannetje wrote:

Methuselas wrote:
I seem to attract MORE women when *I* say 'I just want to be friends'.

I know exactly what you're talking about. :lol:
:-(

 :lol:

[PMC]

T_Bone wrote:

Speelgoedmannetje wrote:

Methuselas wrote:
I seem to attract MORE women when *I* say 'I just want to be friends'.

I know exactly what you're talking about. :lol:
:-(

 :lol:

Well I'm single, and enjoying my freedom right now but I find I'm getting more female attention now than ever before.  Isn't life strange?

A lot of it is to do with how you appear.  I'm happy in life now and it reflects when I go out and smile inanely a lot.  

Here's a gratuitous grin

:-D