metalman wrote:
the_leander wrote:
I've tried correcting him (something his mother refuses to do) but to no avail.
I honestly don't know how much more I can take before I crack on this.
"Dad" is a title you earn with interaction time. You must ignore the insults, and visit and interact with your son regularly to become "Dad".
Look at the reality of divorce. The mother gets to raise the kids. The father gets VISITATION. That means you spend some time entertaining and interacting with your son when you visit. The reality is, it is very emotionally painful to be just an intermittent visitor, for both you and your son. If you don't visit regularly, your son will have feelings of abandonment and rejection.
MetalMan's post is very true. If, as it sounds, this other guy is living in the home with your son, it is absolutely imperative that he take on a fatherly role. If he doesn't, your kid is going to grow up screwed up.
We now live in a day and age where having two mommies, or two daddies is not all that uncommon for a couple of reasons. You might want to see if the other 'dad' would be willing to split the titles. One of you can be 'papa' and the other 'dad', or something like that. Just as children have had to learn from the beginning of humanity that a second or third child does not make them less to their parents. Parents are now having to learn to cope with the idea that having a third or forth parent doesn't have to make them less of a parent to their child.
You also mentioned that you heard your son say that you were not his real father. Consider what could have possibly been said that would illicit such a comment. It is unlikely that the other guy told your son that he was his dad, and your son responded with a "He's not my real dad." Pretty much all imaginable conversations that could have lead to your child's comment involve the other guy defending your father status to your son.
(I certainly don't know the whole story, so take anything in the above post as internet rambling)
