WEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEKEEEEEND!

[whabang]

Yeah, I know. I've been thinking about that stability thing aswell. I'm sure it'll work fine when she's older, but at the age of two, she's simply to young to understand what's going on. :-(

No easy way out of this, I guess...

[uncharted]

I can't tell you how much respect I have for you and the way you've handled this.  This is probably one of THE most traumatic things that you can go through.  The natural reaction to this would be to (understandably) fall to pieces, but you've somehow managed to keep a level head.  

Your daughter is incredibly lucky to have a dad like you.

Don't forget, if you ever want to vent, we're all here for you mate.

[Speelgoedmannetje]

whabang wrote:

No easy way out of this, I guess...

I don't think either that that'd be a good way out. More like a way with a sign 'caution: landmines'.

[Speelgoedmannetje]

uncharted wrote:
I can't tell you how much respect I have for you and the way you've handled this.  

Second that.

The way you handle this, Whabang, is very strong.

[therail]

at least this has been handled well so far. but as you say whabang the difficult part will be later on and decideding who gets wot. at least you two have been civil so far.

[whabang]

I've spent a large part of this day to discuss this matter with my wife.  It looks like your as if we are going to make another attempt to repair a relationship.
Regardless of how badly I have been hurt, I love her, and I want to spend the rest of my life with her, and apparently she wants to spend her life with me as well.
However, it will take quite a while to build up my faith in her again.
We've decided to say tonight to think about how we want our future.

[CannonFodder]

whabang wrote:
I've spent a large part of this day to discuss this matter with my wife.  It looks like your as if we are going to make another attempt to repair a relationship.
Regardless of how badly I have been hurt, I love her, and I want to spend the rest of my life with her, and apparently she wants to spend her life with me as well.
However, it will take quite a while to build up my faith in her again.
We've decided to say tonight to think about how we want our future.

I hope you can both come to terms with what happened and the reasons why it happened and make your relationship stronger God willing.

[adz]

@whabang

Dude that is one fecked up situation, I really feel for you and your daughter. I don't know what advice to offer as I've never been in a situation remotely similar. All I can do is tell you to be strong and try to think rationally. Not sure how a reconciliation will work as I'm highly doubtful that you'll ever regain your trust in her, however, given that there is a child involved, I think it's something you should give serious consideration to.

[motorollin]

I have to admire your ability to see through the pain of what has happened and still find it in your heart to tell your wife you love her. I genuinely hope that you can find a way to trust your wife again and forgive her, as this is the only way you will be able to be together. If there is any doubt in your mind, it will eat away at you. And if I may say, I strongly believe that the only way you can attempt to trust and forgive her is if she can explain why she did what she did.

--
moto

[A4000_Mad]

As you love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her, it is certainly worth trying to put it all behind you if you can. I suggest you tell her how much you love her and that you forgive her completely (100%). This is the only way it will work in my opinion. Obviously it will still play on your mind now and then but you'll have to learn to keep it under control. If you have an argument one day in the future don't throw this back in her face or it will probably split you up for good, as it will be obvious to her that she is not forgiven.


Good luck mate.


A4000 Mad

[CannonFodder]

however, given that there is a child involved, I think it's something you should give serious consideration to.

I'd like to add that my son doesn't remember his mother and I ever being together so  the emotional scarring that an older child would have in the event of a parental divorce is not something he suffers from.

@Whabang
If you find yourself unable to forgive then I would say now is the best time for your daughters emotional well being for you to make the break.  I hope you can work it out though.

[whabang]

We thought about things over-night, and this morning we decided to break up. There's no use getting back together if we're going back to our old arguing again. Sad but true. :-(

Thanks for the support guys, I really appreciate your advice.

[odin]

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'Old arguing', sounds like things haven't been hunky dory for a while then?

Anyway, have you two considered marriage counseling of some sort?

[CannonFodder]

whabang wrote:
We thought about things over-night, and this morning we decided to break up. There's no use getting back together if we're going back to our old arguing again. Sad but true. :-(

Thanks for the support guys, I really appreciate your advice.

Lack of communication eh?  I think Odin's idea of counselling is a good idea, it might help if you both still love each other.

[whabang]

Naah, she's go this thing about therapists. :-(

Anyway, I'm feeling better now, going to have a look at an apartment tomorrow. I don't have the strength to make another attempt now, so I choose the less troublesome way out.

[CannonFodder]

Best of luck mate.