so for me. .FPGA must be EXACT.. or not at all :-/
You surely don't what that either... I mean, as slow as the 68000 (which would be, of course, exact).
Look, it is at the very end a matter of the definition of the goals of this development, a matter of the desired use cases, and the requirements we can derive from the use cases.
You may have other requirements than Gunnar, and I certainly also have others than Gunnar. I would need a fast development machine - that does not mean "cycle exact", but "toolchain compatible". It currently isn't. Tough luck. It does not mean "it's bad". It just means "probably not the right thing for me right now".
If your requirements are "must do exactly as the Amiga does", then, I afraid, the only thing that can satisfy that is an Amiga. Then, however, you have also no rights to complain about "it being a bit slow". That's part of the "exactly as the Amiga" deal. You cannot have perfect speed without actually also loosing something.
Again, I'm not saying that this is a bad decision you have made. It is a valid decision. Problaby not the one I would have taken, but well, people are different.
IMHO: The project is great. Probably not quite for me at this point, but I don't bother too much.