Hi Brian
I sure hate to see you loose hope for your A2091.
I'll admit that SCSI has more of a learning curve than other interfaces, but, once you understand it, it pays off! The links Dan Beaver left (post #93) are excellent. The first 2 really layout everything an Amiga user needs to understand the SCSI topography and rules of the road. If something in those articles needs explanation, ask in this forum! The 2nd link also talks about the long life of SCSI hardware. This makes sense considering the age of some of my stuff, perhaps, made before companies had learned that most consumer hardware would be replaced in only a few years!
If I recall, the A2091 needs a newer rom (version 6.6 or 7.0 (newest)) to work with larger HDs and CD drives. Someone correct me if I'm wrong. Which Rom version on the A2091?
Finally, I recommended the Quantum drive because I have easily had the best luck configuring them. TE is Terminate Enable, jumper this ONLY IF the HD is physically the last drive at the end of your internal SCSI ribbon cable. On a HD only system, the Quantum HD has to be at the end of the ribbon cable. A0, A1, and A2 need no jumpers (The HD will then have a SCSI address of 0. The A2091 has default address of 7, I think. So, no conflicts.)
Lots of folks are pulling for you. Don't give up.