Nonsense, Mel. Let me illustrate. Many years ago, I had a traveling job where I met many young ladies. As luck would have it, I found that three of these young ladies expressed interest in me at the same time (they didn't know each other). What could I do? I fancied all of them. Obviously I would have been a real cad if I just went out with all of them (cheated), so I decided to evaluate each woman's merits. Here is what I did: I gave each woman £200 and told her to spend it how ever she liked, then arranged to meet each woman on her own, a week later.
The first girl spent all that money on perfume and a pair of shoes. She was really happy with her purchase and kissed me thank you.
The second girl bought herself a handbag for £30 and spent the rest of the money on a really fancy briefcase for me. She gave me a really nice hug.
The third girl made a very wise wager with that money and won £400. She gave me the £200 back and split the winnings with me, which was another £200 in my pocket. She kissed me and said we would be good together.
Now who do you think I chose to be my girl-friend?