There's quite a few of us here and over at the Atari forums that have dealt with you and can testify that you are a good seller.
I do understand where he's coming from though... To me, if yuo plan to use ebay to make money, you accept that there are fees to running "a business" and in this case I think it includes the time spent at the post office. Even if you wait an hour for a 20$, that's 20$/hour and is still quite a good salary IMO.
Both of you have valid arguments, even if he COULD just let it go....a freakin dollar for crying out loud. You shouldn't be allowed to use ebay if your break-even buffer is a single dollar.