WEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEKEEEEEND!

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Sorry for the rant, but I'm so pissed off my hands are trembling, and I need to let out some steam.

Six months ago, my wife found herself unemployed after being a house wife for the year that had passed since our daughter was born.
She needed a job quickly, so I used some of the influence I have at work, and got her hired for a customer service job. So far so good.

During the months that have passed since then, she has developed a friendship with one of my colleagues, and that was fine by me; I trusted her.

I shouldn't have.
Today I found out that they've been screwing behind my back for a few weeks. I have no {bleep}ing idea about how to handle this. I can accept that relationships end every now and then , but I can't understand how the hell she could stab me in the back like that.
The fun part will be on monday, I guess, when I'll have to face both of them at work. Time to find a new job, I guess.

If any of you have any advice on how to deal with this, then I'd be grateful. My brain isn't capable of dealing with those kind of things, and the only two options that appear in my head at the moment, killing the moron who shagged my wife, or getting drunk, seem to be rather stupid...

 :boohoo:

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Thanks, guys!

There's no chance we'll get back together. I used to be jealous to the point where it's "cute", but now I'm afraid I'm going to freak out if we get together again and she even talks to another guy.
I confronted her when she got home today, and apparently, she don't know why she has acted the way she has.

At least we've agreed on keeping contact for our daughter's sake. I'd hate for her to grow up without a father, as I had to... :-(

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That's quite common, unfortunately. :-(

In Sweden, the parent's usually share custody after a divorce; and it's becoming more and more common that the parent's take turns (one week each) when taking care of the child.

I'm not afraid that she will get sole custody, but I do know for a fact, that if I don't make an effort to be a part of her life, then she'll slowly fade out of my life, just as my brothers, my sister, and my father did when my parents broke up.

The next few days I'll have to get myself a new apartment. I'm the one with the higher income, and as this apartment is cheaper than most apartments half it's size, it's no more than right that she can keep it (don't want Elin to be homeless every second week). Once that's done, I guess it's time for the painful part: Going through everything, deciding what goes to whom.

I guess the vacation we planned in two weeks isn't going to be the relaxed getaway that we had planned. :-(

Any way, thanks for the sympathy guys, I need it.

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Yeah, I know. I've been thinking about that stability thing aswell. I'm sure it'll work fine when she's older, but at the age of two, she's simply to young to understand what's going on. :-(

No easy way out of this, I guess...

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I've spent a large part of this day to discuss this matter with my wife.  It looks like your as if we are going to make another attempt to repair a relationship.
Regardless of how badly I have been hurt, I love her, and I want to spend the rest of my life with her, and apparently she wants to spend her life with me as well.
However, it will take quite a while to build up my faith in her again.
We've decided to say tonight to think about how we want our future.

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We thought about things over-night, and this morning we decided to break up. There's no use getting back together if we're going back to our old arguing again. Sad but true. :-(

Thanks for the support guys, I really appreciate your advice.

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Naah, she's go this thing about therapists. :-(

Anyway, I'm feeling better now, going to have a look at an apartment tomorrow. I don't have the strength to make another attempt now, so I choose the less troublesome way out.