mdma wrote:
1. I do not have a motor control issue, I have a very strong punch. Especially when provoked. This comes from years of martial arts in two completly differing styles.
There's a simple way around that. Never hit anyone closed-fisted, unless you really want to do some harm. An open hand* itself can't do that much damage to a child, no matter how how hard the blow is - at worst you break your hand. And anyone who hits someone hard enough to break their hand needs serious anger management, but at least you aren't going to cause any major damage to anyone. And getting your hand broken is a pretty quick way to lose that anger...
(* Of course chops and palm strikes are also out, especially if you are an experienced martial artist. But I wouldn't go to the extreme of
never chastising the children - that's how chavs are born.)