WARNING: 'Rohypnol, date rape drug...'

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Dandy wrote:

And - have *YOU* been raped instead?
How was it?
(I've always been curious how it feels (if possble at all)when a man gets raped (by a woman)...)

Male rape is worryingly on the increase and tends to not be taken seriously in society, so the resulting psychological damage can be appalling.  It's no laughing matter at all.

Females raping males isn't unheard of.  There was a publicised case a few years back of this happening.  Non-consentual sex is still non-consentual sex, and can be an act of both extreme physical and emotional violence.

Having known a few close female friends who've had some awful experiences it's something I don't find amusing in the slightest.

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The closest I've ever come to that is "Reluctant" sex. (Using the term "reluctant" loosely!)

As in:

"Oh no dear, not tonight....  Oh alright then."

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KennyR wrote:

Women in monogamous relationships are always reluctant. That's just how they are.

They are?  

If they're in monogamous relationships with someone else then their reluctance is wholly understandable....

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that_punk_guy wrote:
I know I've had an erection when I didn't really want one!

Jeez...  Always at the most innoportune moments!  

Also other "statutory rape" charges might apply if the male is young or the female is in a position of trust, etc.

Actual penetrative sex doesn't need to take place to qualify as a sexual assault.  There was a case in an office where a junior male member of staff successfully brought charges against senior female staff members who's abuse was more emotional than physical.

I was outraged when Carole Malone of the Daily Mirror wrote in her column about the case justifying female sexual assault on males as "maybe it's payback time?".  I've refused to buy the paper ever since.  If the piece had been written by a male journalist about a female sexual assault victim he'd have been publically flogged.

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that_punk_guy wrote:

PMC wrote:
I was outraged when Carole Malone of the Daily Mirror wrote in her column about the case justifying female sexual assault on males as "maybe it's payback time?".

Yikes!  :-o

Yikes indeed...  In her view it's okay to sexually harrass and abuse male members of staff because "it's payback time" an no-one criticises.  

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Dandy wrote:
Are you sure that you "really didn't want one"?
I think it just hit you unprepared.
If you *REALLY* would have *RESISTED* to get an erection (e.g. by thinking of/concentrating on something really sad)
you certainly would not have gotten one!
 8-)

It doesn't quite work like that...  Especially if hyphotic drugs are involved.  It's not as simple as "I don't want an erection so I'll think of Margaret Thatcher in her pants to put me off" as the interaction between mind and genitals more complicated than that, it's not just a mental response.

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cecilia wrote:

I was outraged when Carole Malone of the Daily Mirror wrote in her column about the case justifying female sexual assault on males as "maybe it's payback time?". I've refused to buy the paper ever since

it's hard to respect people who are this dumb.

And even harder when they're pedalling their crap in national newspapers every day.  To tie in with Anakirob's post about male rape not being taken seriously in society, I was offended that the female journalist was effectively saying "Ladies, it's alright to abuse men in the workplace, after all they've been doing it to us for centuries".

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anakirob wrote:

Rape can be a difficult charge to prove, with victims often too ashamed to come forward until long after the incident (if at all). The rapist often anticipates the victims response, and discredits them before they get a chance to confide in anybody.

My society tends to tell men that they are all supposed to be studs, and men who speak out about being sexually assalted by women are rarely taken seriously.

Hear, hear.  I've had three or four female friends who've had some thoroughly unpleasant experiences and who haven't reported the crime taking place out of shame, guilt (in one case the girl actually said to me "I should have fought him off, but I didn't so it's my fault") or emotional blackmail.  Picking up the pieces afterward ain't nice either.

If a man either speaks out against a sexual assault by a woman or another man then society treats them much more harshly than they would a woman.  

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whabang wrote:

If a man either speaks out against a sexual assault by a woman or another man then society treats them much more harshly than they would a woman.

More harshly? They'd be laughed at! :-x

Exactly.