1. AmigaKit (
Clicky) sell adaptors and software which are tested on Amigas. You could probably buy one for a lot cheaper on eBay but with no guarantee it'll work.
2. The PCMCIA is mapped to the same place on the A600 and the A1200 - 4MB into the fast RAM area. It doesn't automatically disable it, so you'll have problems trying to use more than 4MB of fast RAM in either machines with a PCMCIA card, as PCMCIA accesses will also get written to/read from the RAM, usually resulting in a crash.
3. Better accelerators get around this issue by mapping the memory into Z3 space, totally separate and safe from motherboard peripherals, but some basic ones don't, suffering the same issues as a RAM-only card.
4. Can't help you there I'm afraid. They were far rarer than the A1200 versions to begin with, I'd imagine they're almost impossible to find now.