I can help with some of the questions:
1) That 9gb won't be scsi.device, it will be gvpscsi.device.
2) To change the ID of the HD, you will need to use the jumpers on the drive. But if I was you, I wouldn't change anything yet: I would just see if the drive when connected to the GVP SCSI is recognised (have you installed the software for the card yet?) By the way, the HD doesn't have to be any specific ID, such as 6, it must just be a unique ID on that SCSI chain.
3) If there is a conflict between the ID of the HD and the ID of the GVP host controller, it will be easier to change the ID of the card because the jumper pins are clearly marked 'ID' on the card (I think they are J3, J4, and J5).
4) Don't worry about mountlists, just see if the drive can be recognised in HDToolBox. If it can, and you can partition it and quickformat it, you will have the drive available, no further tinkering needed.