I use Miami DX which can be found on Aminet. It comes with a "guide" (think MS Windows ;-)) which makes it *very* easy to set up the network connection. Unfortunately it is a demoversion and there is no way to register it. The unregistered demo version has a lot of the "DX (de luxe)" features made unavailable, and it disconnect you after 30 minutes or so. :-( But that is the only major flaw I see with that solution.
( I need to prove to my wife that I do not have to throw it out. )
Dammit, you gotta make it clear who is in charge over the Amiga issues at your home. THROW IT OUT?! These are SERIOUS matters! ! :-D :-D :-D