So how do I remove it. Don't want to break it. Do I bend the bar up? Do I pry it out? Will it bend back into place? Do I need anything crazy like solder?
Yes, you must un-solder old and solder new:
PANASONIC - VL-2020/HFN
(look on ebay or farnell).
Or do nothing if correct time is not that important for you.