T_Bone wrote:
Actually I don't understand why they do that.
Peer pressure? to FIT IN? please.
Would you pretend to be gay and renounce women if it meant you'd fit in, in a gay world? I wouldn't, I'd continue to indulge, conformity be damned! I'd rather be a black sheep that get's laid [by the attracted-to sex] than the white sheep. Who'd fake it? Would you sleep with another guy to be more popular in school/work/society? I wouldn't, and couldn't for that matter, short of holding a gun to my head, and even then I don't know! :-P
I don't understand it.
I imagine it happens when the only thing you know and have been told about is hetereosexual relationships, despite the feelings you might have towards other men.
If you're going to consider a "gay world", you also have to forget all that you've learnt and seen in this straight world. You won't be able to "renounce women" because to begin with, you won't have even taken the step to having relationships with them. You won't be "continuing to induldge" because you won't have started. You'll have been brought up to believe that everyone has same sex relationships, and if opposite sex relationships are mentioned at all, it's only in the sense that they are unnatural and evil.
Any thoughts you have towards women would be supressed and discounted as passing emotions that don't really mean anything. You'll never get to try out an actual relationship (or anything) with a woman. When you go out with a man, it might not seem right at all, but you'll guess that that's just the way it is - you've got nothing to compare it to.
Of course, in this day in age, I would hope that gay people pretending to be straight would be far less common.
Another thing to remember is that many people might well be bisexual, but they don't pursue same sex relationships out of fear of homophobic reactions or just decide it's easier being straight in this world. It's sad that they feel they have to do that, but it's not strange that they are able to go with a woman if they are bi.
