Holding down both mouse buttons did not bring up the same menu as in the a1200. I only got the boot options, not the chipset options.
So i bit the bullet and opened up the case (15 years old and the warranty seals were still intact) and found the jumper for the display (ntsc and pal). I changed this to ntsc and now it works on my monitor completely in games and workbench, at several resolutions.
I am amazed at how much better the a3000 runs games. At last wing commander is playable, all ive got to do now is install a better hard disk.
Thanks for everyones help.