Sjeesz what an emotions here ;-)!
It's simple: if people don't want to be part of an European community then that's fine! Don't be. People can't be forced to join a party can they?
Whether it's short sighted or visionary, arrogant or self confident, smart just plain stupid is another question.
In my opinion we need to work together in Europe (when I take a look at my atlas the UK was still in Europe) to be able to compete with the US and the upcoming continents. No-one needs to loose their identity in doing so. If people don't want to then hey, too bad. I hope that in the future Europe can become more of world power again in a positive way. After WWII we lost the power and credibility IMHO.