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Offline whabang

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Re: A very personal problem
« on: December 28, 2006, 03:59:00 PM »
Tricky situation, dude!
I've been in a similar situation myself, although that girl wasn't my boss.
We started out working together, and suddenly, we were flirting openly. I got myself together, and decided to stick with my girlfriend (whom I'm now married to).

Before I took that descicion, I decided that I'd never cheat on my girlfriend, and that I'd break up with her before getting into a new relationship. It'd been unfair to do otherwise.

As it turned out, I stopped flirting with the girl at work, and things returned to normal. We remained good friends until I got another job.

Not much advice, I know, but one thing is certain: You need to decide on how to proceed. Any action not thought through might have disastrous effects (especially since it's your boss we're talking about).

If it's just a sexual attraction, then it's probably just something that will pass (the grass is always greener on the other side, and all that). If it's emotional, then perhaps you should take a look at your relationship. Is there a reason behind this?

Anyway, I hope it all works out for you.
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Re: A very personal problem
« Reply #1 on: December 28, 2006, 06:49:40 PM »
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motorollin wrote:
I would never do that.


Oh, that wasn't really a suggestion; I was just rambling about my own experiences. :-)
My point is that there might be a reason for your interest in the other guy, maybe something is missing in your current relationship, or it might be something as simple as a subconscious desire to take a "walk on the wild side".

Those things are usually a reflection of that, which happens without one taking notice, and a sign that something needs to change.

In my case, I needed to cut down on my working hours. I had two full-time jobs at the time.
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