Show the woman who's boss... make her wash the dishes and do the ironing - in a 1950's apron.
It's not about who is the boss, but who is smarter.
If you have all your stuff nicely placed inside a chest / cubboard / desk than the whole issue would never arise in the first place. Just like playing chess, always see one step more ahead.

I've never heared someone say:" Oh my goodness, your room looks so nice, lets clean it up!!"
:-D