Just because they filled regular gear oil instead of ATF won't automatically ruin the gear. Check the specs again to see if manual gear can be used. Trannys can be very sensible to the type of oil used. I broke my rear axle in a week because I filled the wrong oil, I misread the markings on the can.
Anyhow, I think you'll never get the money back anyway. A lawsuit is gonna cost $$$. Haven't you got some sort of consumer counsel or similar in the states? Contact them first, most companys don't want trouble with them.
Oh, btw, this is a prime example of why I always use genuine-brand auto-shops or whatever it is called in English. I have heard too many horror stories about independant auto-shops.