I've had good results with Hakko FX888 soldering station. Adjustable temp, nice selection of tips. Around $100 on amazon.
For desoldering I have the Hakko FR300. Amazing for clearing thru holes. It's a little pricey at $265 currently on Amazon, I got mine for something like $225 on a package deal from an electronics forum.
I keep eyeballing tweezers for my next thing, but also not cheap for something decent.
For me it's buy decent or don't buy. If you're only doing a couple boards might make more sense to send to Acill. If you think you'll be at this for a while, buy good tools and build up your shop right the first time.
Good Luck!