@red
That is a good sentiment, but people are people. Please keep in mind that those on both sides may still feel like they have been through a virtul divorce.
I would also contend that users here cannot easily get over things if the same people here are unfair on other sites. If certain people continuously post things elsewhere containing a certain rhetoric, a number of AO users will still feel a need to lash out against them. I am not giving examples, as that would be the same as laying blame. In the end, I'm for it; however, don't expect users who feel slighted elsewhere to just turn the other cheek here.